Gas flows into and out of galaxies are an important component of galaxy formation and evolution. A key element is the multiphase circum-galactic medium, through which in- and outflows are passing, and its connection to the baryons in the host galaxies. Detections of the diffuse gas phase in the outskirts of galaxies is to date mostly achieved through quasar absorption line studies. However, the link to the physical properties of the absorber host galaxies is still debated and studies of their molecular gas phase from which the stars form are still in their infancy. From dedicated observing projects as well as using the largest (sub)mm survey, ALMACAL, we have detected CO emission from the host galaxies of known intervening absorbers. The detection of absorber host galaxies in multiple CO transitions offer first insights in the ISM conditions of these galaxies indicating higher excitation than in normal star-forming galaxies. Furthermore, combining the (sub)mm observations with optical IFU studies using MUSE reveals a more complex picture of absorption-selected systems.